-- Meir Habib of the Council of French Jewish Institutions, quoted at Chabad.org/news.
Maurice Lamm counsels us in his book, The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning:
Life is a day that lies between two nights - the night of "not yet," before birth, and the night of "no more," after death. That day may be overcast with pain and frustration, or bright with warmth and contentment. But, inevitably, the night of death must arrive.
Death is a night that lies between two days - the day of life on earth, and the day of eternal life in the world to come. That night may come gradually, with a slowly receding sun, or it may come suddenly, in the blink of an eye.
We, the survivors, who do not accompany the deceased on their journey into the night, are left alone staring into the black void.... Our whole being is convulsed. Love and warmth and hope have vanished, and in their place remains only despair.... There is a past, but the past is no more; and the future is bleak indeed."
May Hashem comfort all those who grieve among the mourners for Zion and Jerusalem, and may these two families never know more sorrow.